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Sympathy FlowersFrequently Asked Questions About Sending Sympathy Flowers

There are so many funeral flower arrangements available. Can you help me choose?

Having highly personalized sympathy tributes that depict an aspect of a person's essence has become a big trend lately. Someone who loved the outdoors might indicate a tribute incorporating branches and natural materials. If the person was an avid gardener, a tribute with a collection of garden flowers may be a perfect choice. If you prefer to send a design that is more a reflection of your style, then communicate that. Communication is the key to ordering a sympathy design that will be a true reflection of what you want to express.

Is it okay to send flowers to the family's home, and how long after?

This is a great way to express your sympathy and has become a common trend. Some people choose to send flowers to the home immediately while others prefer to wait a week or longer. There are no rules. In the weeks after the service, this gesture can be a very comforting reminder during the grieving process that friends haven't forgotten.

Would it be alright to send flowers if the death notice mentions a charitable donation?

Yes, flowers help say what is often difficult to express, they are always appropriate and in good taste. Flowers also play a functional role, adding warmth to the service and providing the visible emotional support that the family needs during this time.

Can I send a plant to a funeral home? If I can, will it be sent to the family afterwards?

Yes, it is appropriate to send a green or flowering plant. Some funeral homes will deliver plants or flowers to the home if specified. The funeral director will simply notify the family that they may take the plants with them after the service. Check with your funeral home to see what they will do.

Can I send flowers in a glass vase to a funeral home?

From an etiquette standpoint this is absolutely acceptable, however some funeral homes have rules about certain types of arrangements. You should consult the funeral home before and see if it is all right with them.

How should we sign our names if we send flowers as a group?

When groups go in together on flowers, the arrangements can be very special and make a larger showing. There should be room on the floral enclosure card for several names, but if there are more it is best to sign as a group, such as "The Anderson Family." You should also include a contact name and address on your card so the family knows who to thank.

If I want to place a tribute in or on the casket, what should I do?

This tradition is usually reserved for family members or special loved ones. Ask the family first before ordering anything for the casket such as a pillow or heart. Look throughout our site for special tributes that would be acceptable to send.

What is appropriate to send for a cremation?

A tastefully designed floral tribute adds beauty to any type of memorial service. It is common for the family to have a piece designed for display with the urn.

I want my flowers to last. How do I choose the right ones?

There are some flowers that are simply not up to staying perky and fresh for long. While beautiful, they won’t last and are seldom worth the money paid. You want flowers that can be set up at the gravesite and enjoyed for more than a few hours.

Flowers to avoid include the more delicate flowers such as forget-me-nots and roses. Irises are far too delicate to stand up to a funeral and won’t last long enough to be taken out of the funeral home.

When in doubt, it’s a good idea to ask your florist which flowers they recommend. Professionals will be able to give you an estimate on how long each bouquet is likely to last and they can also suggest appropriate colors for the situation.

How do I know what is appropriate when ordering flowers for a funeral?

Sympathy tributes vary region to region, so it is best to ask your florist what he or she recommends. Sometimes a florist will know what the family has ordered or what other tributes are being sent, and can create something for you that will be a nice complement to the other flowers. The florist should also be familiar with any restrictions the funeral home or cemetery might have. Additionally, if a family has any special requests, the local florists are usually notified and can pass that information on to you.

I have seen a lot of different styles of floral arrangements at funeral services lately. What is best? How do I order a "special" design?

Highly personalized sympathy tributes that depict an aspect of a person's essence are a growing trend. If the deceased was a man who loved the outdoors, perhaps a tribute incorporating branches and natural materials would be ideal. If the deceased was an avid gardener, a tribute with a collection of garden flowers may be a perfect choice. Be prepared to give the florist a few hints about the person you want to memorialize. If you prefer to send a design that is more a reflection of your style, be sure to communicate that to the florist. Most flower shops will have photos of traditional sympathy styles for you to peruse.

Is it okay to send flowers to the family's home? If so, when is it appropriate to send them?

Absolutely. This is a wonderful way to express your sympathy and is a common trend. Some people choose to send flowers to the home immediately while others prefer to wait a week or more. There are no rules. Flowers can be a very comforting reminder during the grieving process that friends haven't forgotten.

Is it still appropriate to send flowers if the obituary mentions a charitable donation?

Yes. Because flowers help say what is often difficult to express, they are always appropriate and in good taste. Flowers also play a functional role, adding warmth to the service and providing the visible emotional support that the family needs during this time.

Is it acceptable to send roses or flowers in a glass vase to the funeral home?

From an etiquette standpoint this is perfectly acceptable; however, some funeral homes have rules about certain types of arrangements. Your florist will be familiar with what each funeral home allows.

If several of us want to go in together for funeral flowers, how do we sign our names so the family knows how to thank us?

When groups go in together on flowers, the arrangements can be very special and make a larger showing. There should be room on the floral enclosure card for several names, but if there's not enough space it is best to sign as a group, such as "The Girls in Accounting" or "The Smith Family." Include a contact name and address on the card so the family knows who to thank.

Where did the tradition of sending funeral flowers come from?

Flowers have always played an important role in burial traditions because of their soothing qualities. In ancient cultures, floral and herb essences were used to anoint the bodies of the deceased and aromatic flowers and greens were displayed.

Is it appropriate to send a plant to the funeral home? If so, will the funeral home send it to the family after the service?

Yes, it is appropriate to send a green or flowering plant. Some funeral homes will deliver plants or flowers to the home if specified. In some cases, the florist may make arrangements to pick up the plant after the services and deliver it to the family. Otherwise, the funeral director will simply notify the family members that they may take the plants with them after the service. Check with your florist to see what is customary for your area.

If I want to place a tribute in or on the casket, what should I do?

This tradition is usually reserved for family members or special loved ones. Ask the family before ordering anything for the casket. Your florist can offer suggestions for other special tributes.

What is appropriate to send for a cremation?

A tastefully designed floral tribute adds beauty to any type of memorial service. It is common for the family to have an arrangement designed for display with the urn. Because cremation is quite common in an increasing number of regions, many florists will have specific suggestions.

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